• IronBird@lemmy.world
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    23 hours ago

    if it’s any consolation, does make the bar for picking up woman incredibly low, makes it easier for the rest of us i think. just don’t be a complete creep and your at top of the curve

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      24 hours ago

      I recently re-entered the dating pool for the first time in a decade and it’s incredible how much attention I get from just appearing clean, having my shit together, and not posting a picture with me holding a fish. Never got so much attention from women before in my life. Had a date in like one week.

      The bar is very, very low. I am sorry, ladies out there.

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        22 hours ago

        Lots of women who I know and date say “the bar is in hell.” Fr just be a functional adult with good hygiene and emotional intelligence and you are in the top 1%.

        • vacuumflower@lemmy.sdf.org
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          19 hours ago

          and emotional intelligence

          Thank you for telling me I’m unfit.

          say “the bar is in hell.”

          This reads like a joke or an exaggeration, but it’s really there.

        • zensanto@ttrpg.network
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          21 hours ago

          appearing clean

          It means he’s attractive.

          having my shit together

          It means he has money.

          If you lack both of these, it’s going to be rough.

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            9 hours ago

            I mean, I am 6’3”, have all my hair, and have 20% bodyfat, but there’s no indication of my financial status on my profile. I’m financially independent but I live in a modest house and have a practical, not fancy car. I’d say I’m a fairly normal lanky nerd that’s slightly on the spectrum.

            Point is, I feel like an average 50th percentile guy overall, but I’m getting a lot of attention, maybe 90th percentile based on what I read online. Still get ghosted a bunch, but who cares.

          • petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            9 hours ago

            I’m friends with several women: no it doesn’t, and no it doesn’t.

            Having your shit together means your room doesn’t have a pile of garbage building on the floor. It means you’ve hung up 1 piece of art to make your white walls more interesting. It means your carpet was washed within the last 3 months.